You should not get angry at the other person. Be the person who steps away.
If you don’t, you are the narrow-minded person making things difficult.
The other person is doing what he or she thinks is right.
Stop enforcing your standard on others even if it is a social standard or ethical.
I remember making a big mistake when I went to Nepal to help with an orphanage. I was a real asshole. I got so angry at the person driving me around for coming late all the time. He wasn’t a few minutes late. He on some days came a few hours late. I couldn’t work with this guy.
In my standard, this was not acceptable. More importantly, it is not the right thing to do or socially acceptable behavior. From my experience and what I learned, I know this was not going to work.
I consulted the pastor and what he told me changed how I think.
• Time works differently here
• He is volunteering with a busy schedule
• More importantly, what is our overall goal?
• The driver is an integral part of the orphanage team. Are you empowering him or making him feel bad?
Me making to an appointment on time was important. But overall, empowering the driver who had shortcomings was more important.